Reading Mrs Ripps’s posts has given me plenty to think about and prompted me back to some of my original reading about the kind of teacher that I’d like to be. http://mrspripp.blogspot.com/2011/01/after-publishing-my-discipline.html http://mrspripp.blogspot.com/2011/01/put-your-name-on-board-tale-of-why-i.html I’ve always had an idea of the way that I want to relate to students, and am also very aware of how far I need to go to achieve that goal. At around the same time as I began my teacher training I was reading books by Alfie Kohn and Adele Faber / Elaine Mazlish. This was originally about the kind of parent that I wanted to be, at a point when my toddler son was making his own demands known and I was struggling to reconcile my ideals of child-rearing with the experiences from my own childhood. However, as he started school and I started teacher training those ideals became more important than just the conversations between the two of us – what kind of teacher would I want him to have, and what kind of teacher did I want to be? I grew up in a ‘Because I said so!’ household, and all too often those are the words that I find tripping off my tongue. They’re the default setting that I revert to when I’m stressed or tired, but they’re definitely not who I want to be, or who I’d want to be teaching my children. The difficulty is in un-learning that reaction, and substituting it for a more considered response that reflects both who I want to be and the kinds of young adults I want to raise – both from my own young children and the teenagers that I spend my working days with. I want my students to be able to think for themselves and to solve their own problems, asking for input from me when they need it rather than to get to a quick answer. I don’t want them to behave well ‘because I said so’ but because they want to get the most out of their time with me and with each other. I wish I could say that reading such authors had changed my behaviour, and that I was now able to realise the goals that I started out with. Unfortunately un-learning all those years of behaviour management is proving to be a lot harder than I’d ever imagined.
What has helped enormously though is to know that I’m not mad for wanting to do things another way – there are others who share those ideals; some of them are a lot further along the road than I am, and they’ve got some really positive results to prove that it is worth the effort of making the change. Making the change sometimes seems harder, rather than easier, as a result of the systems and routines of a large secondary school. The fact that X behaviour from a student should always elicit Y response from a teacher, in order to maintain consistency across the school, does mean that students always know where they stand in relation to the adults around them and what the consequence of any particular misdemeanour will be, but I fear that it prevents them, perhaps more than anything else, from being able to recognise the real consequences of their actions and to take responsibility for those. In protecting our children from real consequences, we’re also hiding from them the real value of making any effort at anything. We spend so much time enforcing rules and imposing consequences, that students become focused on those rules and consequences, rather than on the reason for having them in the first place. Every single student can tell me, by rote, why it’s important to listen to each other respectfully in the classroom, and yet a huge number of them fail to do just that frequently. They associate quiet with learning, and look very confused when I point out that the reason for being quiet is so that they can hear what someone else is saying rather than just that it’s rude to interrupt; or that it’s OK to continue talking when the head walks into the room, since talking was the basis of their learning at that particular time. I’m convinced that it would be much easier for me to make the changes that I need to my own approach if students weren’t expecting to be ‘controlled’ quite so much – I am by nature too controlling to start with, and I would like to reduce that aspect of my character, rather than hear students tell me that in order to learn they expect me to control their behaviour ever more strictly. However, I’m also worried that it’s too easy for me to blame a system beyond my control rather than continuing to plug away at changing myself.
What I’d really like to read is examples from teachers in secondary schools who manage to have more autonomy within their own classroom, regardless of the approach in the rest of the school. Will behaviour really continue to improve as my own teaching becomes more engaging, or will it be my experience at looking/sounding scary that leads to improved behaviour? I came across this blog post by Seth Godin in which he argues for employees to act a little less like students who respond to bosses/teachers with – say back exactly what they want to hear, with the least amount of effort, and you are a ‘good student.’ If this is really what our ‘good’ students are doing then I’d like students to act a little less like students too!